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The New Hampshire Recovery Hub Celebrates Mothers Day

Cheryl's Mothers' Day Story

May of 1989 would mark the last Mother's Day that I would be completely consumed by my addiction.

At the time, my only child was three years old, and as that Mother's Day came and went I began thinking really hard about the impact my addiction would have on him and on his future. I knew in my heart that I did not want him to grow up with a mother who was incapable of being present in his life. I will always remember the exact date that I was able to admit to myself, and to those around me, that I needed help and that I wanted to seek treatment - June 28, 1989.

I am pleased to say that from that day on my son grew up in a drug and alcohol free household.

We had our ups and downs and I certainly was not perfect, but I was available both emotionally and mentally, to be there for my son and to be the best mother I could be for him. I attended all of his sporting events as well as his school events. We even went camping and went on vacations quite often. We were truly blessed that I had been given the gift of recovery from addiction.

Today, almost 30 years later, I am so appreciative for the people who helped me when I was struggling, and for those who helped me to turn my life into one that is truly beyond my wildest dreams. I have a wonderful relationship with my adult son, who has been married for eight years, and I now have two absolutely beautiful grandson. Although my son and I did not see each other this past Mother's Day because we live in different states, I did take some time to reflect on my relationship with him over the past 30 years.

My heart continues to be filled with so much gratitude that my son did not have to grow up surrounded by the ugliness of addiction - he grew up with the blessing of recovery.

Donna's Mothers' Day Story


Mother's Day is a day that we celebrate a Mother's maternal bonding with her child or children, it is a celebration of how a Mother has an influence on her children and in our society, it is a day for children to show their gratitude to their Mother for her unconditional love.

Mother's Day 2008 could have been the most tragic, devastating day of my life, if my son's attempt to take his life was successful; but by the Grace of God, a different plan played out.

May 11, 2008 my son woke up and realized that he survived an attempted overdose and in that pivotal moment he chose to save his life and follow through with the arrangements he made the day before to go into treatment.

It was a long, silent drive from Concord to Keene, I remember feeling anxious and sick to my stomach, with thoughts spinning in my head. I had so much emotion wrapped inside of me, I wanted to scream my pain and yet I had feelings of bliss that my son was going to treatment. I was sad because I knew how sick he was and I also knew from experience that if he wasn't willing to surrender his addiction to a power greater than him, this would be just another stay in a treatment facility with him having a prescription to use when he got out, in other words, he would just go through the motions to get me off his back.

Two weeks into his stay, he decided to do things different this time; he decided to work at building a solid foundation by learning how to live authentically in the solution of recovery. He looked himself in the mirror, had a conversation with the person who was sick and suffering, he felt a negative energy leave his body that day and he knew deep within that he would be ok and that his journey into his recovery was about to move forward.

Today, I am a proud Mother, who is honored to tell you that my son Pj is a person in uninterrupted long term recovery; he is an amazing young man who rebuilt his life in a way that I couldn't have imagined. In my humble opinion, I feel that my son is a miracle; he is a Husband, a Father, a business owner with his younger brother, a Real Estate Investor and an inspiration to many men and woman who are on the same path of recovery.

Mother's day to me is a gift of courage, a gift of inspiration and the greatest gift of all . . . the gift of my son's life.

Wendy's Mothers' Day Story

What mother's day means to me now. Ever since I became a mom, I've always loved Mother's Day. My boys always make the absolute CUTEST arts and crafts. When I lost my boys it devastated me in every way. At that point, Mother's Day was just another day of misery to me. My rights were terminated to my 3 middle children due to my addiction, and my mom adopted them. I got sober on April 28, 2017. This year, 2019, I am finally excited for Mother's Day again. I now have a beautiful baby girl named Madilyn who is 10 months old. I've had to put a lot of hard work in to prove to my mom that I was taking sobriety seriously this time. My boys came back into my life in November 2018. One of the happiest days of my life so far. I get to be a mom again to them. It may not be full time, but I'll take what I can get. They're allowed at my house now, we've had sleepovers, our bond is back. And I just found out my oldest son will also start living at my house every other weekend. I finally have my whole family back. Now that I've given my background, here's what Mother's Day means to me now. Now it's about being in the moment. Every day feels like Mother's Day. Bonding with my children is the best. I see my boys on the weekends and have my daughter full-time. We're always doing something and I've learned to truly enjoy every single moment with them. Watching them grow and learn is the highlight of my life. If someone like me, who was stuck at the bottom and had my rights TERMINATED, can turn their life around....so can you. YOU ARE WORTH IT!!! Those babies love you and just want you back. You can do it, I have faith in every single one of you. Happy Mother's Day and Happy Father's Day out there to all you wonderful parents.

Jennifer Mothers' Day Story

​My name is Jennifer, I am a person in recovery, I am a sober parent, I am a good friend, sister, aunt, and co-worker.

This year I'm invited to my sister's and her husband's house for a Mother's Day brunch and I'm speaking at an A.A Noontime Meeting that I was asked to speak at. I get to spend the morning with my family and my 2 sons, then share my experience, strength and hope with others in recovery.

This was not my reality 19 months ago. My recovery date is September 30, 2017. On that day I was picked up for a warrant and detained for 3 months. That day marks the day when my entire life changed and I began on a journey to self-awareness, reflection, and psychic change.

One of my goals in early recovery was to get my oldest son back. I now have unsupervised visitation and am an active parent in his life. Although the healing process for my family and me has been challenging, we're getting through every obstacle and learning every day. Bottom line for me is I can't get high over anything anymore, it's not worth it. The desire to use is gone, it's just not there anymore.

I also had a baby, he's 4 months old. This experience has been very different from my oldest son. With my oldest I struggled with substance use disorder and unfortunately wasn't well enough to take care of him. I've been sober the entire time with my second and I enjoy every minute of it. So, my relationships between my two sons are very different, I am a sober Mother sustaining sobriety for the first time and longest time ever in my life, every day I get to be present and enjoy my life with both of them. Everyday I'm building trust and rectifying what damage and harm I caused those I love the most.

Waking up to a smiling baby and watching my oldest play baseball and get to know him more every time we're together has been the greatest gift of my recovery.

My mother helps me so much and without her I wouldn't be who I am today. Finally I feel worthy and responsible enough to have both of my children with me and it feels great to be closer to the goal I set at the beginning of my recovery.

Never give up. There's always hope. You deserve the best.

I know it's not easy…but hard work pays off

Happy Mother's Day!

The Truth of Motherhood

Meditation, manifestation and anticipation without expectation. Learning to trust God while acknowledging; what will be, will be.

When my first daughter was born, I didn't anticipate the musing and fancied stories about my birth parents (whom I've never known) that her life rekindled. Somehow becoming a mother and discovering a love so intimate and indescribable, contrasted my own experience as a baby.

Amidst the beauty and excitement of becoming a mother and watching my daughter's first everything in awe, God's grace softened the edges of decades old pain that lay deep inside my soul. My God and recovery has enabled me to step beyond the limits of pain, fear, doubt and insecurity so I can show up for life today and be the best mother I can be for my girls. I thank God for them every day and I remind myself, as my sponsor once shared, that I'm borrowing them from God.

And that's great and all but when those super challenging days arrive and I feel like I'm sinking, like I'm failing as a mother and just plain overwhelmed, the design for living continues to carry me through those fleeting moments. In my Truth, I can see their smiling eyes, hear their sweet voices and feel the love that pours from their being. They teach me how to BE. How to see and experience life more clearly. Thank you, God.

Diane's Mothers' Day Story

Hi I am Diane and I am so proud to be able to share my 27th year of sobriety with my mother Bonita Young who never lost hope in me and who I might become, she is now suffering with Parkinson's Disease and I am so grateful to be here for her as she waited for me to overcome my addictions. Thank you mom for not giving up on me!

Joy's Mothers' Day Story

DNA doesn't define family! She has been Mom in my life these past few years. I'm so grateful God has given me this gift! We both filled holes in each other's hearts that were missing because of loss in our lives. Nancy Wilson aka Mom has stood by my side through my ups and downs has loved and supported me in my recovery. We love and support each other unconditionally. She is my Mom.

Dianne's Mothers' Day Story

Hi I am Diane and I am so proud to be able to share my 27th year of sobriety with my mother Bonita Young who never lost hope in me and who I might become, she is now suffering with Parkinson's Disease and I am so grateful to be here for her as she waited for me to overcome my addictions. Thank you mom for not giving up on me!

 

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