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Emotional Intelligence (EI) Empowering Detoxing Emotionally: A Task of Stage Two of Recovery – Deepening

By Arthur H. Woodard

How do we HELP ourselves and recoverees achieve the task of Detoxing Emotionally as identified in Stage Two of the Stages of Recovery?

How willing and able are you to prACTice and support the ability to tolerate and make distinctions between and among feelings as outlined in Stage Two of the Stages of Recovery?

How willing and able are you in understanding and engaging in a process of becoming more emotionally intelligent?

This HUBLOG offers an opportunity to identify how you might identify what emotional intelligence is and how you might learn, do and teach emotional intelligence to prACTice and support emotional/feelings management in a recovery process.

Emotional Intelligence (EI) empowers our performance in living and supporting recovery and begins with the individual. Developing competence, empathy, optimism, social skills and self-control in understanding and managing emotions can accelerate success in living.

EI is how well we identify and manage our emotions and respond to the emotions of others. EI understands how emotions shape thoughts and ACTions so we can better control our behavior and develop the skills to manage our selves more effectively and responsibly. Becoming more emotionally conscious empowers us to change and grow and gain a deeper understanding of who we are and HELPs us to communicate better with others and build stronger relationships.

EI is an essential part of the whole person (Holistic). The four fundamental aspects of EI are Perceiving/Awareness of Emotions, Understanding Emotions, Managing Emotions and Using Emotions.


  • Addresses the emotional, personal, social and survival dimensions of intelligence.
  • Is the best predictor of success in life (recovery).
  • Is related to personal performance and effective leading.

EI Matters. EI is a wide range of skills that HELP individuals of all ages develop and improve emotional and social abilities. I have found EI to be HELP-full in supporting and guiding the emotional well being and success-full learning and living for my self and with my adolescent grandchildren as well as recoverees.

I offer the following focus and ACTivitieS in supporting recoverees in Stage 2 and teaching my grandchildren regarding Emotional intelligence Matters,

Intrapersonal EI Matters

  • Self regard – what do I think about me?
  • Emotional self-awareness – what am I feeling?
  • Assertiveness – how well do I stand up for me?
  • Independence – what can/do I do for me?
  • Self-Actualization – what do I make believe about how I feel?

Interpersonal EI Matters

  • Empathy – how do they feel?
  • Social responsibility – do I have to lend a HELPing hand?
  • Interpersonal relating – what is my part in a relationship?

Adaptability EI Matters

  • Reality testing – how do I use my head/my mind?
  • Flexibility – how well do I put on a different hat?

Stress Management EI Matters

  • Stress tolerance – how do you spell relief?
  • Impulse control – how do you spell self-control?

General Mood EI Matters

  • Optimism – how well do you look on the bright side?
  • Happiness – what makes you happy?

IQ Plus EI = Success

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