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Emotional Detox: A Task of Stage Two of Recovery – Deepening

By Arthur H. Woodard

How do you HELP individuals achieve the task of Detoxing Emotionally as identified in Stage Two of the Stages of Recovery?

How willing and able are you in understanding and engaging in a process of emotional detoxing?

This HUBLOG offers an opportunity to identify how you might identify what emotional detox is and how you might teach and support an individual to address the Stage Two of Recovery – Deepening task of Emotional Detox.

Deepening is defined as extending inward, downward of forward; richness; a deeper understanding that informs and helps recoverees and their supporters in an emotional detox task and process.

My own understanding of emotional detox has been deepened as a result of my co-facilitating the CCAR Recovery Coach Academy over the last ten years. I have come to understand emotional detox thusly.

  • Some old patterns and old energy that hold us back and cause us pain and unhappiness.
  • Much like our physical selves needing vital nutrients to be healthy and to perform at the highest level, the same can be said for our emotional selves.
  • In our honest effort to help ourselves and others we may experience that as we are working hard to change and achieve goals and perform tasks to change, we at times hit an invisible wall.
  • As a result of hitting this "wall" we may sabotage, lose motivation and self-confidence, get stuck or paralyzed by analyzing what is going on.
  • We might have achieved a lot yet still don't feel happy.
  • We may feel anxious, sad, resentful of others, angry with ourselves, self-pity, inadequate, powerless or hopeless.
  • We may have also experienced physical symptoms such as headache, indigestion, neck and back pains, insomnia, anxiety or panic.

When we are in this state, our self-destructive emotions and self-sabotage become a vicious cycle and makes it more difficult to motivate or push ourselves to reach our goals.

The major emotional toxins that we might experience and hopefully will become aware of include:

  • Feeling not good enough, not worthy.
  • Chronic people pleasing.
  • Perfectionism.
  • Emotional traumas and dramas.
  • Self-limiting beliefs.
  • Compulsive comparison with others.
  • The Four Fears – fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection and fear of judgment.

These emotional toxins are a root cause of stress and self-sabotage that creates unrecognized chaos because we are many times unaware of or in denial about our patterns.

As a result of my learning, doing and teaching to support addressing emotional detox, I ask following questions:

  • What do you recognize to be your emotional toxins?
  • Which of these emotional toxins are causing you stress and self-sabotage?
  • What are the events or situations that initiate your destructive emotions?
  • What are the underlying thoughts and beliefs you identify when you experience these self-destructive emotions?

Emotional detox is a Healing process.

Healing is:

  • Embracing what is most feared.
  • Creativity, passion and love.
  • Opening what has been closed, softening what is hardened and deepening that which remains unexplored or ignored.
  • Learning to trust life.

People Can and Do Recover


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Monday, 26 September 2022